Relationship experts agree that the most important step in winning back lost love is to create an effective plan of action. Before doing anything, you need to plan exactly what you are going to do AND prepare for how your ex will respond to your words and actions.
It only takes one mistake to ruin your chances of getting back together. Do not let your emotions make you say or do something you will regret later!
Welcome to part two in the two part series to winning back your ex The last article we talked about giving each other space, analyzing where you screwed up, getting your emotions under lock down, and making a sincere effort to mend your faults.
The last thing that we touched on was arranging a meeting with your ex. Winning back your ex does require some face to face time, so it’s important to arrange to meet. However, when you do, don’t even mention anything about wanting to get back together. Stay calm, and try to make conversation that puts you both into a relaxed frame of mind.
Eventually your break up will come up, and this is where winning back your ex becomes a bit of an art. You will need to let your ex know that you realize where you screwed up, and that you don’t blame them for choosing to bail. You also need to be sure to mention whatever it is you are doing for self improvement. However, winning back your ex isn’t that simple. You need to let them know that you aren’t just changing your ways to please them. They need to know you are changing your ways because YOU want to be different, and happy and healthy.
Your ex may end up agreeing with everything you say. Don’t get mad, just accept it as truth, because you already know it is true, you just don’t like to hear it from others. That is pride getting in the way and you need to swallow it if you want to have any hope of winning back your ex.
Judging by how well this initial meeting goes for you both, you can then suggest possibly meeting up again sometime. No pressure, it would just be nice if you could remain friends. Then back off and give your ex some time to chew things over.
This is where self control comes in, because there is no way of knowing when or if your ex will ever call you again to arrange that second meeting. But you have done your best, and provided food for thought to your ex. They will now be remembering you in a more positive light, and this could be the spur that urges them to give you a ring. You could put winning your ex back at risk by losing control and calling them too soon. They will end up feeling everything you said at the first meeting was a lie or manipulation, and it will make winning your ex back ten times harder than it has to be.
Patience, a commitment to positive change, and improving your listening skills will aide you in winning back your ex. Over reacting, being clingy or demanding, and negative behaviors will ruin your relationship for good. So practice that self control!
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